Meaning of marriage. Comes with living with them over time. They cannot fill us up likeGod. Try to always assume the best not the worse. Don't have expectations without communication. Your response is your responsibility Love is a verb more than a feeling. 1 Corinthians. Our emotions can make us irrational God designed marriage so go to him for help. Pray with your spouse and for your spouse. It is ok to get counseling or help. We are sinners and he forgave us. Learn forgiveness Don't expect your spouse to be your joy contentment. That's Gods job